Coax Her

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When Miaomiao was unwilling to rub face cream this morning, her grandparents had to coax her to rub the cream.

She was still unwilling to do this thing after many many good words but was forced to rub the cream on her face by her grandma finally.
And when Miaomiao was unwilling to take a nap this afternoon, i tried to make her sleep but failed. And then i just had to play with her. But during this period she losed her temper unreasonably and kept on crying, then her grandma came out of her room, blamed me without asking the reason and coaxed Miaomiao “your mum is so bad that make you cry, just come with me and sleep with grandma.” And then she held Miaomiao and took her back to her room.
I also remind last night, when Miaomiao was unwilling to take a bath, her grandma also blamed me first and coaxed her by saying “Mum can’t do well, she always makes Miaomiao feel pain, Mum is bad”, and then Miaomiao stopped crying and listened to her. (Here i want to tell the truth, i have washed Miaomiao for more than two years and she was fine normally but more easily to lose temper when her grandparents were here.)
I think it’s reasonable to coax a baby to do the proper things, to stop crying, and to listen to us. But is it really good to compel her by force, or by saying bad words of the former person, especially her dad, or mum? If using force, she will hate to do the same thing more and compel more intensify next time. But if saying bad words of the former person, she will never realize her own fault and will easily form a bad temper and habit. And as the baby is so little, saying her parents’ bad words can easily let the baby feel lack of sense of safety.
Are there any other effective and healthy ways to coax and cure a baby? I think it’s the course every parents should learn and search.

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Tina Peng

Tina Peng, Miaomiao's mother, born in 1985, and give birth to Miaomiao in summer of 2013, love Miaomiao very much, and willing to record her tiny things in this blog.

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